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Yes to all of the above. I’ve been increasingly detached from social media over the years and have replaced it with more reading (the OG hobby of the sexy and mysterious), handwriting letters, making art, and even decided to go back to school bc of the time it freed up for me. Studying for 2 hrs per day > social media. And that decision was also fueled by last year when I heard someone say “don’t confuse marketing with education” which explains why people are duller than ever. Nobody knows where I work except my few closest friends. Or where I get my favorite pastry. My life feels like it’s really, truly mine. In the age of cheap oversharing (and the pressure to do so) privacy feels like a type of wealth that feels so good to give yourself. And the irony is it’s the only type of wealth you can’t flex online… or, rather, the flex is done by not flexing at all.

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10000000%. Anonymity is the biggest luxury these days. Appreciate this comment xx

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I love this. It’s fascinating to consider how mystery and the role of a writer or content creator can coexist. Striking that perfect balance is something I—and so many others—aspire to achieve. Come to think of it, what you put out into the world must be art in a way? Put out your art (in any form) but don't speak about it too much?

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Totally. I think it’s about doing a check in with yourself. We have become addicted to the rush we get when we share with our online audience. I cannot help but feel our real relationships suffer because of how easily we can feel momentarily connected to our parasocial ones. It’s fun to share our art but are we only making it so we can share it? It’s so interesting to think about our motivations and how we can better protect our creative process and the mystery that often inspires it

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So true! Thanks for writing about this. Think it’s helping a lot of people to stop and think for a second

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I want to be this person so badly but alas, I am a leo.

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looool I love it

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Haha, we love our Leo’s!!! And I think for some performing is just part of your nature. And some of us truly love the entertainment <3

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i enjoyed this timely and encouraging read. our digital age has allowed us to know more about each other than it was ever intended. i read through the list and began patting myself on the back for already fostering most of these practices. it’s important for mystery to exist between us as humans so there still remains things for us to be curious about

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Exactly. Curiosity and mystery are a gift <3

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Your ‘stacks always hit

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I'm honored you think so!!

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Stellar read. “…curiosity fuels connection” — so true!

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it really does!!!

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mystery - don't know her! (terrible joke)

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LOVE this! We have so much potential, but because we are offered a stylised blueprint on every possible way of living, dressing, buying, acting, etc.. we’ve become so lazy! I’ll also add that it just perpetuates overconsumption and fatigue. Choose to be YOU, not a microtrend that you identify with.

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Yes!!! Thank you for reading 🥰♥️

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Yes to all of this! The mystery and the allure…we’ve lost so much of that through the saturation of reels and trends. Appreciate this post. :)

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so glad it resonated with you! thank you for reading xx

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Ah, I totally agree!! I love surprising people (must be the little Venus in Scorpio in me.. hehe) And I think this is why many have found celebrities less captivating... because we have SO much access to most of them, seeing all of the details of their lives displayed on their IG stories, they no longer feel as otherworldly in a way that maybe Monroe did?

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1000% !!!

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AMEN. More Mystery 2025™

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Yes. Don’t tell all. Mystery is important. Bob Dylan does this best.

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J'obsessed with this. 2025 the year of being off the grid and mysterious. Don't give away everything to people that don't deserve it! Make them ask questions to find out

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exactly!!!!!! sometimes people don't ask questions because we have become so predictable !

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Love ❤️ this so much!

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thank you for reading, means the world xx

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i am obsessed with this

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I'm so glad!

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Yes yes yes to all of this. I find myself reading this over and over. I could not have said it better myself. More mystery, more looking out and not down. Put the phones away. Love this post so much, thank you thank you!

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thank you for reading, so glad it resonated!!!!!

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